When I talk to friends who are trying for kids (sorry can't keep calling them children and want to keep this reasonably polite) they always talk about trying. 'We're trying you know', 'we've been trying for 6 months', 'we've tried all different positions you know'. Well I don't know and I don't want to know. Why is it that people think you are interested? Is there some kind of hierachy here? If you have been trying for less than 3 months are you at the bottom of the hierarchy and if you are having help are you at the top or does it keep going until you actually concieve (subject of another blog I think).
I do feel for people when they obviously want the little blighters (at least I hope they want them rather than feel they have to have them to satisfy some societal convention) but I DO NOT need to hear every little detail when I am sat in the pub trying not to choke on a beer. My usual response at this time is 'yes very nice but have you heard about (insert any comment in here that has nothing to do with kids, sex, concieving etc)' and hope that it works for longer than the time it would take to concieve. If this doesn't work and more often than not it doesn't I start talking about my very exciting life which has nothing to do with kids, like to hear about the last lie in I had, the last night out when I didn't have to find a babysitter, the day I didn't have to have a debate over whether reusable (what is all that about) nappies or the landfill pampers were the best option? All things that they will obviously need to consider in great detail at a later date and will obviously form a few of the 1001.
Oh well at least as they do start to concieve the little blighters and can't find a babysitter, my group of friends will change to the other old maids like me and I won't have to talk about it for another 18 years when the little ones leave home (can't wait)!
